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The Curiosity Seduction Hypothesis

The Curiosity Seduction Hypothesis

    When your brain registers happiness, it often sends a message to the muscles around your mouth to form a smile. But interestingly, it works both ways. Researchers have shown that forcing yourself to smile can make your brain feel happier. In humans, our cause and effect circuitry often works in both directions.

    Another example is music. If you hear a new song at about the same time you’re falling in love, that song can later become a trigger for your emotions. Your feelings of being in love probably helped the song sound better than normal when you first heard it, and years later the song can summon those same feelings in you.

    There are lots of ways we can take advantage of these little triggers in our lives. My favorite example is that if I don’t feel like exercising, I can often change that feeling simply by putting on my workout clothes and running shoes. My brain associates the feel-good chemistry of sports and exercise with the physical sensation that my athletic shoes have on my feet.

    This leads me to today’s topic: The Curiosity Seduction Hypothesis. We know that when two people are attracted they become intensely curious about the life and happenings of the other. In fact, the best way to know if someone has romantic interest in you is by paying attention to the questions that person asks. If someone asks you only a few typical questions, it’s probably just polite conversation and nothing more. But if the curiosity starts extending to deeper questions, and more of them, that’s a “tell” that something else is happening.

    My hypothesis is that you can induce romantic or sexual interest in another person by exhibiting curiosity, even if the curiosity is faked. Since we know romantic interest generates curiosity, I would expect it to work in reverse as well. Pretending to be curious about the details of another person’s feelings should cause that person to automatically form a positive feeling about you, including perhaps feelings of lust and romance.

    Obviously this only works if the two people involved have some potential for chemistry in the first place. I wouldn’t worry about falling in love with a banker who asks for your mother’s maiden name to verify your password.

    Do me a favor and try this method over the weekend to seduce someone new or to generate some action with your existing partner. If it doesn’t work, the worst that can happen is that you will appear to be an interested and caring conversationalist.

    If you report back on Monday that the technique worked, you will have earned your Moist Robot Reprogramming Certification, Level 1.

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